Dating

Overcoming Awkwardness with First Time Dates

First dates can be very awkward for both people. There are so many things to worry about. Some of the things that we can worry about are things like “What if he doesn’t like me”? Or “What if I offend him in some way”? We can go crazy when it comes to some of these thoughts and we might talk ourselves out of going on the date. In this article I’d like to give you some practical solutions to some of your worries. These solutions will help you to enjoy your experience instead of worrying about it.

What If He Doesn’t Like Me

Many of us worry that our date may not like us. We are so nervous that we don’t even know how to act. This makes it very awkward for both people. A way to get over this concern is to realize that your date is probably feeling the same way as you are. When you realize this it will help you to relax and be yourself. This will give your date the chance to get to know the real you. Don’t put on a fake front because this will only get you into trouble in the long run. Another way to deal with this worry is to realize that you may not like the person either. They have to make a good impression on you too. So if you both relax chances are you will make a better impression on each other.

How Do I Make Conversation

Once you are able to relax and be yourself without the worries of rejection then you can feel free to talk. A great way to keep conversation going is to ask questions about the other person. Be sure to ask them open-ended questions and not questions that can be answered with a yes or no. Make the person have to talk. For example, ask them what they do in their free time. This will tell you a lot about the person. Ask them questions where they have to tell you about their likes and dislikes. People like to talk and be listened to. You must be willing to answer questions likewise also though. If you don’t want to give too much information away then ask another question to your date. Conversation can go on and on all night long like this.

What If I Do Something Embarrassing

What if I do something embarrassing? You think what if I spill something on my outfit or spill my drink? How embarrassing. Realize that you are human and things happen. We all do it. If your date can’t handle it then he is not for you. Remember he is worried too. He is afraid that he is going to burp in front of you and that you won’t fee attracted to him. Again the important thing is to relax and to enjoy your date. There is nothing worse than having a stuffy date.

The best way to do it is to stop being conscious about your looks and attitude, as though you are rehearsing a movie scene in front of the camera. It will only make you feel that you are in a spotlight and your true personality will not come out, which means that he may consider you fake and phony. Also, don’t exaggerate anything about yourself and just be truthful to him, tell him about your likes and dislikes to make him comfortable as he will to the same with you. This information is available on okcupid dating app which you can rehearse before going out with him.

How Do I Say Goodnight

Don’t worry about it until it is time to do so. It will come natural and you will know what to do. When your date walks you to the door you can gently grab his hand and squeeze it and genuinely say thank you and that you had a wonderful time. If he wants to kiss you it will come natural. If you aren’t comfortable with a kiss on the lips then just kiss his cheek. As long as you are courteous everything will go fine.

I hope that some of these ideas will help you to overcome your worries and awkward feelings when it comes to first time dates. Hang in there and everything is going to be just fine. Don’t forget to have a wonderful and fun time.

Kris
Kris
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